I hate this stupid argument I love my mother, and I would never wish an unwanted pregnancy on her. If my mother was forced to go through with a pregnancy that she didn’t want, just so I was born, that would be awful. That would mean that I was a punishment. That would mean that my mother suffered…
This, up there.
I’ve had many problems, amongst them I have also felt guilty for being born because there were times I thought I ruined what was considered a glorious future for my parents. What they got instead was me.
School biology lessons can be fun and disgusting as well. What I learned in my biology lessons at school in the beginning of my teenage years was that it was possible for women not to have children and that there are many reasons why people make choices the way they do.
My parents were young when I was born, in the age where college and parties are considered more important. For years I felt bad and accused myself of ruining my parents lives, because I thought they had to have me when instead they could have gone ahead to achieve what they had wanted and planned. Who knows what would have been if I were not born? I tormented myself for years, shed endless tears and had suicidal thoughts, because after learning how young they had been, how they had married because of me, I thought they were forced to become parents.
I am lucky and I love my parents for who they are, what they have done for me and my mother is the best in the world. However, I never ever want any other person to feel like this. I thought that my parents were forced to have me, while they accepted me as their future child and had me and loved me and gave me everything in the world. What about those kids and teenagers and adults whose parents really never wanted them and who know that? Living with that knowledge is horrible, it can leave you unimaginable and unseen scars and while there are plenty of people who simply choose not to think about it, there are also plenty of those who blame themselves.
My incredible mother made a decision that effectively changed her life and she is very happy. She never considered adoption or termination, the moment she knew she was pregnant, she wanted to have me.
But not all women are like that. People see adoption as a way out, “if you don’t want your child, someone else will”. How many kids are there in this world, in orphanages and in abusive foster homes, because nobody wants them? The biggest number of adopted children are babies, infants who will have no recollection of their parentage, names, addresses etc, they are, in effect, like white sheets of paper, ready to be written on - new history, new name, new parentage.
I respect people and their choices. I respect someone’s religion and someone else’s atheism. I respect the Jehova Witnesses who refuse of blood transfers, because it is against their faith. I respect Catholics, who are against abortions, because it is against their faith. However, just as I respect your values as a person, my values as a person should be respected too. Adoption is an option, just because it exists does not mean YOU have to use it, but just because it exists, does not also mean YOU have to ban abortion for everyone.
Good news for women in Kansas, and for those who, like the late George Tiller, trust women.
Among 35 major national print publications, including The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal, men had 81 percent of the quotes in stories about abortion, the research group said Thursday, while women had 12 percent, and organizations had 7 percent.
In stories about birth control, men scored 75 percent of the quotes, with women getting 19 percent and organizations getting 6 percent. Stories about Planned Parenthood had a similar ratio, with men getting 67 percent, women getting 26 percent, and organizations getting 7 percent.
Women fared a bit better in stories about women’s rights, getting 31 percent of the quotes compared with 52 percent for men and 17 percent for organizations.
“I want you to think as you grow up and into adulthood about putting this passion that you have for this cause into making healthcare available for everybody; into making, for example, executions illegal if you are pro-life. Think about the inequities that force women to say say, ‘I want this pregnancy but I cannot raise a child.’” —Michelle Kinsey Bruns
In college, my friends and I so appreciated the Planned Parenthood clinic close to campus. For those without insurance, or who didn’t want their parents to know they needed birth control or pap smears, the low-cost services were essential. One friend had her first gynecological exam at PP, another…
My submission was posted today!
I have very loving, educated parents, but as a 16-year-old girl who was about to become sexually active with my steady boyfriend, I knew that I would be unable to turn to them for help with obtaining birth control. I knew that I did not want to become a teenage mother, so a friend and I went to…
Blog recommendation of the day. True stories about all the ways teenagers, women, and men have used and trusted Planned Parenthood. A timely reminder about why PP needs funding so they can continue to provide the myriad of services that help us lead safe, healthy, happy sex lives.
“It’s appalling. It’s offensive. It’s out of touch. And when it comes to what’s going on out there, you’re not going to close your eyes. Women across America aren’t closing their eyes. As long as I’m president, I won’t either.”
-President Obama, forcefully and eloquently stating his opposition to restrictive state-level abortion laws like the recent spate of forced-ultrasound bills.
There’s the Obama I voted for. If he can keep up the pro-choice messaging when it’s not election season, that would be even better, but this is a good start. As Irin Carmon observes, the statement is a big move for him:
“Of course, the president didn’t go all out in his support of reproductive freedom — he didn’t mention the word “abortion,” just as he hadn’t in his otherwise full-throated video defense of Planned Parenthood (though, to be fair, he was talking about maintaining federal funding to the organization, none of which goes to abortion). But for a man who less than six months ago was talking about how limiting access to emergency contraception was “common sense,” it was positively a sea change.”